Prep for Counseling and Mediation

Here are some questions to consider for counseling:

  1. What are your best hopes for this process?
  2. What are your fears about this?
  3. What will be required of yourself?
  4. How motivated are you to make these changes?
  5. What do you do that helps your partner feel heard by you?
  6. What complaints does your partner have of you?

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Here are some questions to consider for mediation:

  1. When do we need an agreement done by?
  2. Are you prepared to be the only one that is flexible? (Are you going to change your mind on an issue, especially if upset)?
  3. Are you prepared to be the only one that generates new ideas? (Do you want to talk about the past or the future)?
  4. Imagine you got what you needed from this process. How would that help your kids (or you)?
  5. What do you believe the easiest issues are to be solved?
  6. Pressing issues are not meant to be final, precedential, and admissible. There may be retroactive application of any new resolution.
  7. What would you do if you were in the other’s shoes?
  8. Can each of you offer a package deal?
  9. Wouldn’t it make sense to see how much we could accomplish before we go to war?
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