Parenting
Is My Child Out of Control?
Does your child make careless mistakes?
Does your child not finish tasks?
Is your child able to listen for extended periods?
Does your child resist organization or lose things easily?
Does your child find it unpleasant to do thinking tasks for extended periods?
Does your child get easily distracted by noise or events that are easily ignored by others?
Is your child forgetful?
Does your child have difficulty sitting still?
Is your child overactive?
Is your child impatient?
Does your child do things without thinking?
Does your child cause or threaten harm to others, self, animals, or objects?
Does your child frequently lose temper?
Does your child frequently argue or refuse to comply with requests or instructions?
Does your child frequently annoy others?
Does your child blame others for your own misbehavior?
Is your child frequently easily annoyed?
Is your child frequently angry and resentful?
Is your child spiteful and vindictive?
Child & Teen Counseling in Crystal Lake & Huntley, IL
Help for Kids, Teens, and Stressed Parents
Today’s kids face more than ever—social media pressure, nonstop news, and constant comparison. If your child is struggling with opposition or defiance, attention-deficit concerns, anxiety, depression, substance use, bullying, aggression, or self-injury, you’re not alone. At Blair Counseling, we support children, teens, and parents with practical skills and compassionate care. We can work directly with your child and/or create optional parenting plans that improve coping, behavior, and self-esteem.
Why Families Choose Blair Counseling
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Local care in Crystal Lake and Huntley, serving McHenry County and nearby communities
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Evidence-based therapy for children and adolescents (CBT, mindfulness, behavior strategies)
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Parent coaching that reduces conflict and strengthens connection
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Collaborative plans with schools and pediatric providers when helpful
Common Signs Your Child May Benefit from Counseling
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Big emotions (anger, anxiety), frequent meltdowns, or shutdowns
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School avoidance, slipping grades, or focus problems (possible ADHD)
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Sleep changes, low energy, irritability, or sad mood
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Social challenges, bullying, or risky behaviors
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Self-harm talk/behaviors or substance use
If your child is in immediate danger, call 911 or your local crisis line.
Our Approach: Skills That Calm the Storm
Stress can push kids into hyperarousal (fight/flight) or hypoarousal (freeze/shut down). We teach kids—and coach parents—tools to widen the “window of tolerance” so home and school go smoother.
Tools for Big Feelings (Hyperarousal)
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Awareness & Mindfulness: notice body cues (tight chest, tense shoulders) and name feelings
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Breathing & Grounding: belly breathing, “hot cocoa breathing,” 5-senses grounding
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Calming Activities: music, movement, nature, art/journaling, safe physical outlets
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Distraction That Helps: walks, counting backward, brief movement breaks to metabolize adrenaline
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Healthy Expression: talking to a supportive person; creative outlets; structured choices
Tools for Low Energy/Shutdown (Hypoarousal)
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A.C.E.S.
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Accomplishment: small wins, visual schedules, realistic expectations
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Connection: positive time with family/friends, faith, pets, nature
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Enjoyment: hobbies, laughter, gratitude moments
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Self-Care: sleep, nutrition, movement, and regular breaks
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CPR for Parents: Calm • Connect • Practice
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Calm first: reduce your own reactivity; offer choices; keep language brief
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Connect before correct: show understanding so anxiety lowers and listening improves
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Practice, don’t just lecture: rehearse the “right way,” use re-dos, and model problem-solving
School & Home Structure That Works
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Predictable routines with visual checklists/timers
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Breaks for movement and sensory needs
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Prepare for transitions and less-structured times
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Reduce distractions; consider background noise or headphones
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Track responsibilities with age-appropriate rewards and logical consequences
What Sessions Look Like
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Intake & goals with parent(s) and child/teen
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Skill-building sessions tailored to your child’s needs
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Parent coaching to keep progress going at home
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Check-ins with schools/physicians (with consent) to align support
Ready to start? Call us to schedule an appointment in Crystal Lake or Huntley, or ask about telehealth options.
FAQs
What ages do you see?
We work with children, preteens, and teenagers. Parent-only coaching is available when appropriate.
Do you diagnose ADHD, anxiety, or depression?
We can assess symptoms, collaborate on referrals, and provide evidence-based treatment plans.
How long does counseling take?
Many families see progress within a few weeks; lasting change builds with consistent practice.
Can you help with school issues?
Yes. We share strategies for attention, transitions, and executive skills and can coordinate with schools.
What if my child refuses therapy?
We start with parent coaching and motivational strategies to increase buy-in and safety.