Copyright © Dan Blair 2020.
If the goal of communication is to feel understood and cared for, use CAB.
C larify what the other person is saying or feeling, or make sense of what they are thinking, even if you disagree.
A sk for what you are wanting, or ask the other person to make sense of what you are feeling. Make multiple proposals. Don’t debate.
B oundaries make clear what you are not willing to do, but end with what you are willing to do. Meet in the middle.