Archive for the ‘Divorce Mediation’ Category

Success with Supervised Visitation

Thursday, March 1st, 2012

Supervised visitation is centered on facilitating a relationship between the children and both parents. If both parents are present for visitation the positive message it sends to the kids is powerful. It says that the kids are more important than our differences. It says that parents will work together to create a sense of safety. It gives the kids a sense of peace that parents will be okay and that a relationship with each parent will be okay. It is a chance at consistent and calm interaction.  (more…)

Parents, Attachment, and Kids

Thursday, September 8th, 2011

To say that a parent’s attachment to his or her kids is strong may be a negative statement. Attachment is described as secure and insecure, so it is possible to have a strong attachment that is insecure. (more…)

Is My Marriage Over?

Wednesday, August 31st, 2011

There’s no one cause to divorce. Researchers point to a spike in divorce between five and seven years of marriage due to high conflict and between ten and twelve years due to loss of intimacy and connection. (more…)

What is Attachment?

Monday, August 29th, 2011

Attachment is a kind of bond that endures over time. It is primarily developed the first to third year of life, but that is not the only chance to develop attachment. Attachment figures are those who meet needs of the child especially in times of distress. Attachment shapes a child’s nervous system. (more…)

Working with Counselors and Court

Tuesday, August 23rd, 2011

Working with the Court in managing chaotic situations involving children and counseling is challenging and requires an additional set of skills. This article should help to evaluate court-involved counseling. It is important to know how counseling will affect the legal process and how the legal process will affect counseling. (more…)

Reunification Therapy with Estranged and Alienated Parents

Monday, August 8th, 2011

Aside from abuse, children generally benefit from a relationship with both mom and dad. (more…)

What is Parenting Coordination?

Tuesday, January 4th, 2011

Parenting coordination is a future trend and a viable option to custody battles. When parents are not able come to an agreement regarding their children a parent coordinator will mediate the issue. If parents are still not able to come to an agreement a parent coordinator gathers information to make a decision in the child’s best interest. (more…)

How One Parent Undermines the Other Parent

Monday, December 27th, 2010

Much of the time one parent does not realize what they are doing. The effect on the kids is unnoticed. It is usually experienced by the child as stress, tension, anxiety, guilt and depression. Kids may act out or hide it. Parents usually justify it.

What is “it?” On the moderate side it is undermining the other parent and it can lead to alienation. (more…)

Parenting after Divorce

Wednesday, September 22nd, 2010

Parenting after divorce presents new challenges. Each parent will have their own rules and approach. The kids have to learn that mom and dad’s house is different. The rule remains though that both parents will have better outcomes if they back each other up.

Often when one thinks of disciplining kids you think of angry exchanges with both sides feeling frustrated and misunderstood. (more…)

Is Divorce a Sin?

Wednesday, September 15th, 2010

Churches proclaim divorce to be a sin with certain exceptions.  These exceptions depend on which church you attend. Some believe divorce is a sin unless there is sexual infidelity, but what about abuse or neglect of a spouse?  (more…)